Why on earth would the two choose to remain ‘just friends,’
and still want to reap the benefits of dating? The best place to start
answering this question, before we explore alternative answers, is me… Yes,
I’ve had such. So let’s dip in.
Why did I have a friend with benefits again? Well, I was
probably testing the waters like every guy would do. Boom, I got lucky. And
then it happened again, and again, and again with the same person. So why did I
have a friend with benefits? Accidentally.
We are the boys, we’d always want the cookie, even if we
don’t really want it. But somehow we just do, so if she’s willing, why not.
Boys don’t just want to sleep with you, but they are actively trying to. So if
you are willing to give it up, they’ll get it.
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When it comes to sex, the first option is bargain. “What’s the least I can give up to get it
with her?” The boy would ask himself. We know the best we could give up to
get sex is the ring. But come oooon… Can’t we just? So the boys are always
looking for a way around getting the cookie without giving up the ring, and the
lesser we give up, the better.
Rest assured, the ‘friends with benefits concept really came
up with a guy. It might just be the same concepts that inspired prostitution.
This might have happened during the bargain negotiation. Eventually women
figured, they could give up the cookie at a ‘price tag.’
So, again; Why do people want to be friends with benefits?
The answers could be,
I.
Perfect
Accident
Men are forever actively trying to get it. If she’s willing,
he’ll go as far as she allows him to. It’s not personal to him, it’s just sex.
II.
Bargain
power to detach strings
During the bargaining process, he was able to convince her to
give up the cookie in exchange for nothing. Men are forever bargaining for
cheap sex, they can always friendship for such benefits.
III.
Gratification
To feed the sex drive. We all have that, sometimes we just
want to get, both guys and girls. The only thing is, it’s both scientifically
and biblically proven that too much sex affect girls more than guys. We all
don’t know what happened to the guy who slept with the woman who was handed to
Jesus to be stoned to death, nobody knows where the guy disappeared to.
IV.
To
compensate yourself for being single
People who’ve grasp some benefits of being single, but who
still want to feed their sex drive are likely to opt for friends with benefits
too. These people hates the burden that comes with having someone in your life,
but also want to enjoy the pleasure that comes with having someone by your
side.
V.
Settle
for less
Well, for technical reasons there’s people you just cannot be
with, but you love them enough to get it with them. Thus, friends with benefits
VI.
To
explore variety
Well, both guys and girls come in different shapes, sizes and
packages. The thrill of knowing you only live once and you can’t have all the
variety to yourself could get you naughty. Curiosity is a dangerous thing. So
to if one finds themselves curious on what the other has to offer in bed, they
could settle for friends with benefits.
Final words:
If you ever find yourself in such, be sure to remember this
is the game of taking from someone, and not giving. So when the time to go
separate ways finally arrives, you don’t feel like it’s been taken from you.
It’s important that you are both on the same mind when you play this sex game.
And be ready to suffer the setbacks that comes with it, like falling for
someone who is just in it for the fun of it. And don’t you ever do it to try
and hook someone into a relationship. That’s formula for disaster.
