MEET THE BEAST IN ALL MEN

I feel strongly for the young lady who came up with the notorious saying "men are dogs." She is not such different from the women who still reverberate these words at this day and age. One common thread that connects all these women is the tragedy of an encounter they had with 'Mr Wrong' at the crossroads of life.

I am a man and I understand my fellows, the so-called Mr Wrong. On behalf of all men, I must confess there was a great degree of truth in the statement, 'all men are dogs.' However, ladies should note, altering this statement to "there is a dog in every men" could elevate this statement into a higher degree of truth. And today I want every lady to meet this dog.

The dog in every men is honest, he wants nothing but the meat and he can do all possible to get it. He cares about no one else but the owner, his actions only honour the wish of the hand that feeds him, and he will bark at every bitch that comes any closer to his master.

Today I want to reveal one thing about the dog in every men. He is the one you are dating, until this man meets the right one. Basically every lady that's rolling with Mr Wrong is dating the beast in him. I know it's really fun rolling with Mr Wrong, until he walks away. Quite often this is the time where you notice the tail between his legs that you recall "all men are dogs." While the reality is, you were dating the dog in him.

Many women want a man who'll change for them. Let me tell you a secret, he'll never change for no one. Men don't change. You might think he'll change simply because he's shown some great character in him. Often it is you that notice such characters about him and you friends just don't get it. That's the signal telling you every men is a good man, except that you are not dating the guy but the beast in him. And that beast you are dating will never change; not for you, not for Boity. The only thing that will happen is, the day he meets 'the one,' the dog will take the back seat and he'll take the driver seat. The good thing is, he might meet the one in you, and in that case also, the dog will will move back and he'll take charge. The bad news is, I can't guarantee he'll do that for you.

What does this mean for you ladies? Keep calm and play safe. Never give out too much to the extent of feeling like it's been taken away from you. Don't give him what he hasn't earned. Only give to him what's due to him. Let him earn his dues. You do this so the day you discover you've been dating a dog, you'll know it's game over, the game has been good and you only compensated a player with what was due to him, and you lost nothing in the process, or at least you feel like that.

REESTABLISHING THE DATING RITUALS #01

Everything changes with time, and quite often it becomes difficult to reinstate correctional measures once changes has taken effect. Especially if people cannot observe these effects.

With the previous posts in the Absolute Treasure box, the feedback suggested there has been magnificent changes in the way in which people view dating. And the observed changes are rather troubling than exciting.

There is an urgent need to reestablish the former ways of viewing dating in the 21st Century. While civilisation brought magnificent improvements in the quality of life, the quality of dating has been deteriorating with time. The reports on divorce ratings and the unwillingness to even get married amongst adults are the byproducts of alterations in the dating rituals.

GOING OUT ON A DATE

In it purest form, dating is about meeting and getting to know someone. It's enhancing ones chances to meet a special somebody. It's about making her to feel special and demonstrating your ability and willingness to make her happy. Yes, dates are meant to be romantic and quite often, they are a way of demonstrating a man's interest in a particular lady.

A guy would take you to a date so determime the possibility of a relationship. So the ritual of dating does not have to always lead to a long-term relationship. And until then, there shouldn't be so much strings attached. It is absolutely owk to meet someone, get to know them, even make them happy and happily move on if you know they not the one you'd want to pursue a long-term relationship with.

LOVE IS IN THE AIR

If the initial attraction seems to be extending beyond just the initial few dates, this could suggest the intensity of the attraction and the possibility is, there might be 'something' in the air. In this case, there is a need to open a room to nurture what seems to be growing inside of you and this is achieved through getting to know each other and further opening the gates of romance in the newly found relationship.

SKELETONS IN YOUR CLOSET

It is at this point where one needs to remember if there is any committment in terms of previous or rather side relationships. It would be difficult to build a new relationship when you have someone who still has a claim on you. Many potentially good relationships die out simply because people embrace their newly found relationship without resolving issues with previous partners. On the next article we will discuss the necessity of ending a relationship on a positive note.

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10 REASONS TO SETTLE FOR A FRIEND ZONE :-p

I often wonder, why guys are so against staying in the friend zone. Well honestly gents, the fact that she's allowed you to go as far as being friend, she's given you the wicked opportunity to sweep her off her feet. All you need to do is play your cards right and before you know, she's right on your arms.

Here are 10 ways you can help her realise you are all she could ever ask for in a relationship:

1. Women love being served

Rather often than less, a lady would undertake an activity which require man power. Be sure to make yourself available at such times. Let her watch you undertake it with ease, and smilefully. It very easy to make yourself available and if you already have her digits, you are one step ahead. Randomly call her in the morning. Make it friendly. She should know whatever manly help she needs, you are a phone call away. You don't havehave to say it. Your friendly attitude towards her is enough to do the trick.

2. Be cool with "Just being friends."

Girls have a tends to be inferior if they know you are not sexually attracted to them. She'll start looking at herself in the mirror and be like, "Why doesn't he want more? Why is he cool with being just friends." Tell her she's an amazing girl and offer to introduce her to your "cool" friends. If she agrees, only introduce her to the douchebags. When they mess up, apologise later on for their "hostility."

3. Introduce her to your 'other' female friends.

Stick to the ones who really like you. Hug them right in front of her. Tell her you like them, 'It just that they are not your type.' Be confident. Tell her about the type of woman you'll like to be with. Throw in a few of her qualities to the list of all qualities you look for in a women. Be all bubbly about it. Put in some emotions. Girls love emotional people, just don't overdo it.

4. Tell her about your one favourite ex.

Tell her about all the things you liked about her. Tell her about one bad thing that caused you to break up. Even if there were a thousand reasons, just mention only one. She should know that if it wasn't for that reason you'd still be together. Woman love a man who can commit. And oh... Don't forget to mention you are currently not looking, 'You'd rather surround yourself with cheerful buddies like her.'

5. Hangout on romantic places.

Girls like parks, beaches, restaurants, libraries (Yes, libraries) and social events. Introduce her to everybody you know as "My good friend, Nonhle." And be sure to touch her each time you do. When you are around people, hangout with her a lot of time. If you get complements like "Nice pair," Don't explain yourself, be cheerful and take them. If the world think you can make a great couple, soon she'll think so too.

6. Be the guy who makes her talk if she's not OK.

Even if you don't have a solution to her problems. Give her the shoulder to cry on. Even if she can't tell you what's wrong, stick around, make her laugh, be sympathetic and cheer her up at the same time. Stick around for an extended period and be sure to make it worth the while. Ladies love a man who cares about their feelings. You don't always have to have solutions, as long as you understand, she's happy.

7. Use "traditional" communication channels.

Instead of WhatsApp; use SMS. Give her a call and tell her you'll send a "Please Call Me" when you are at her doorsteps. Woman respect effort, make some. Formulate your own communication routines.

8. If you'll be away, tell her in advance.

While you are away, make her know you'll be busy and will not be communicating extensively. Cut down on social media. Send her a couple of SMSes while you are away. Tell her you'll come back at a later date, and then show up to her place sooner and unexpectedly. Don't communicate a day before you come back. On arrival in the neighbourhood, she should be the first person you visit. Don't call, go straight to her house and knock at the door. When you see her, be sure to give her a hug.

9. Buy her something she really likes.

It should be something she never really considered buying. It should be small and inexpensive, don't go bankrupt just to put a smile on her face. Remember it's the thought that counts. If she likes printed Tee's and her favourite colour is pink, consider the latest Ama-Kip Kip T-shirt. Even if it never crossed her mind she'd want to buy it. The fact that you know (I) She likes 'printed' and (II) her favourite colour is pink, makes you a genuinely caring guy to her.

10. And finally;

Always look out for that one moment when she'd be deadly in love with you, emotionally paralysed, and seemingly ready to give in. Take her down with some bad romance and the rest will be history. NB: Before you shoot for a French kiss, you might have tried a baby kiss at least twice and got lucky.

Brother, you've just been promoted from a guy on the friend zone to a boyfriend. It's not rocket sciences... It's street social sciences.