HE'S NOT A PLAYER... HE'S ACTUALLY LOOKIN'

Good people, love is not a meal that you should browse it on the menu. Nope! Give the guy a break, he's not a player. He's looking and he hasn't found. So it's only logical that he keeps jumping from one "relationship" to the next. If you want to settle down on the first or second stop. That's your business, not his. Well, the same could apply to ladies.

For the same reasons mentioned above, neither is she a bitch. Why do you always have to judge people without really knowing what they want. A life partner is not something one could just discern from distance. It calls for closer. And sometimes it takes giving the relationship a chance to discern whether your partner is a keep or not. And should you learn that he/she is not the one, what should you do? Hang yourself? Hell no. You simply move on.

Have you noticed how quick Heartbreakers move into the next and seemingly better relationship? Could you possibly be wondering why? They are not guilty it didn't work out, but rather grateful they gave it their best shot and while doing so, enjoyed the ride. Even better, along the process they might have learned a lot about themselves and also the opposite sex.

Our social norms have programmed us to believe that it is immoral to get in a relationship and walk out as your heart commands. They have made social practises to be binding. They have taken the pleasure out of the dating ritual.

There is a phrase which is interchangeable with the word "dating." I think it explains this social practise in a simpler way. 'Seeing each other.' I love this phrase. I can imagine my friend asking me. "Tell me buddy, what's up between you and Lisa?" And I'll respond like... "We actually seeing each other." This phrase eliminates the strings off the dating game. It makes you realise dating is exactly that, "seeing each other."

I am not suggesting that relationships shouldn't grow into a level where people are sure of each other. In fact I am pro that. For it is such relationships that give birth to healthy marriages and happy families. Here, I am only justifying a fellow who realise six month to a year down the line that, 'I didn't sign up for this.' And then decides to explore his alternatives. Buddy, he is not a player, she is not a bitch. She has every right to move on and see someone else, as long as she is comfortable with it.

I wish not to extend this into talking about the sexual side of moving relationship to relationship. But, we might be talking about that rather sooner than later. Check out my profile and be sure to keep in touch. Especially through Facebook. And do have your say on the comment slot below.

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