Meet My Wife...

This morning I woke up with a lil bit of sadness in my heart. Thinking how often have I failed to obey my God. Truth be told, compared to millions of people out there, I'm above average, but this shouldn't be the passport to settle for the second best.

As a 22-year old boy, or should I say a man? Quite often I realize there is so much in-store that God has for me. There are tons of potential hidden in my inner-being that I haven't yet released. So much. I don't even want to mention a few... the list is too endless. Amongst these lies marriage with a beautiful lady I pictured this morning. How did I end up with the picture of this madam in my photographic memory? I was overwhelmed with God's expectation that I should save my sexuality for this special lady. At this day and age, for a dude growin up in the hood It is a lil deficult to put ones actions together. But glory must be given to God who, through Christ, has made all things possible. Back to madam... Next paragraph, LOL.

B.E.A.U.T.I..F.U.L... In spirit and on sight. I've never met such a beautiful lady in my life. Everything about her. Her speech, her walk, her looks, her cooks. She is so beautiful. She got brains and everything she says makes absolute sense. You'll swear she's been thinkin for an hour when she responds to a quetion asked just a sec ago. She always have a sensible word to speak in every situation. She can calm a storm with a phrase. She is polite, her voice is clothed with a hopnotic and seductive tone. Quite often she tries to hide the beauty of her voice when she is amongst strangers, since she is normally mistaken as a flirt if she's in her normal voice.

While many people know her as this lovey dovey kinda woman, there is a side of her that many haven't seen. She never settles for the second best. She never compromises her standards, and she doesn't tolerate nonsense, not even from me. As much as she doesn't like to dictate people around, she doesn't like being dictated too. She is not normally up for leadership but quite often people chose to fall her. She always conduct herself in an appropriate manner, though she is not a woman who normally conform to rules. It can be said that many rules, even those not yet made, have a tendancy of conforming ot her subconscious ethics.

Damn... I know you are dying to meet this angellic being, so am I. God hasn't introduce me to her yet, I trust He will soon. She is one thing that keeps me going even when the going gets tougher. I'm sad I just got her picture recently. I'm sad I can't produce anything tangible to prove her existance at this point in time. But I'm quite excited she is out there patiently waiting for me. Most of all, I owe to her to keep myself too. So she also may find myself in my best condition. Trust me, good isn't enough for this girl...*smilling*

Meet my wife... Meet Mrs Sokhela

Way of Purity

Recently I briefly introduced you to an online ministry that has been helping God's people to find freedom from habitual sins. At this point, it’s a lil earlier to elaborate on why exactly I visited this site. This is going to be more clearer as I share with you some of the material on my coursework/


What I'd like to tell you today is; this is the actual course I'm doing on Setting Captives Free. I am currently seating on Day 25. Here is it brief introduction:

You have arrived at Setting Captives Free The Way of Purity course, the 60-Day interactive course that will teach you to enjoy a newfound relationship with the Lord and how to find freedom from sexual impurity. It is possible, and you can learn how.

If you know someone who'll benefit from this programme. Feel free to introduce him or her to SCF. You are more than welcome to email me, just click here if you need to talk.


In Christ
Diyo Sokhela
STUDENT@SCF

Setting Captives Free

I want to introduce you to Setting Captives Free. An online-based ministry that has been setting captives free for a while now. I'll tell you how did I get to know about them and why am I introducing you to these guys later. What you should know for now is that I benefited a lot from them. Here is how they introduces themselves on their website:

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Welcome to Setting Captives Free. Every day we help people just like you find freedom from habitual sins and learn to grow in grace. Our Christ-centered courses are free of charge and help people just like you escape impurity, over-eating, substance abuse, gambling, smoking and more. Join the more than 396,475 people who have benefited from Setting Captives Free. We’re glad you’re here, and we’re here to help!

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For a while we haven't been able to open up on our dark struggles, but the more we hide is the bigger we open the room for habitual sins in our lives. Sure you want to live in slavery forever, neither do I. That actually the reason why Christ came. Luckily now freedom is at your fingertip. Well for now you can check up Setting Captives Free... Ngizokubona later (See you later).

I'm Losing a Friend... It Hurts

Some relationships were meant to last forever. Well... others were not. Either way, we all have to enjoy our relationships while they last. Irrespective of their nature. 'Realising what we had when it gone' isn't just a proverb, it's a situation most of us have, or maybe will, experiance once in a while. Some will learn this from the experiences of others. While some of us will have to personally go through this route.

Why am I saying this? Well... I think my friend is dumping me. Recently I'm losing touch with her. She's so much angry with me. For various reasons I'm not even certain about. She no longer wants to be in touch with me. Seemingly she has no intention of discussing the reasons behind this coldness she's been showering me with. I know I'm not the best friend she'll ever have. However, the last time I checked I was her best friend. Not just that but the best she ever had (so she said). For me, it's not a normal case to be someone's best friend ever. For that reason, I've been fighting to have her back in my life. Honestly speaking I'm not ready to lose her. Seemingly, I just did.

I love my friend. So much. Yes! for many times I've hurt her. I'm not proud of that. On the other hand, for a while I've been her source of happiness. Isn't it ironic how we hurt the people we love, and those who love us back? No it's not, trust me. It's in this friendship I've learned that. Think about this; Why would you be hurt if someone you just don't care about betrayed you, failed to keep a promise, or failed to spare you some time? You won't hurt. Simply because this person has no much control over your feelings. So tell me, why are you so surprized that the people you love are those who hurt you most?

I'm not willing to reveal much about my friend and I. As a matter of fact I doubt even that she'll approve of me publishing this article, but I guess I did publish it. After all, she might not even see it.  I love my friend. I guess I'll always do. Whether she is around or too far, whether she's still a friend or a frienemy.

I can't say I wish her all the best with her future friendships. Why? Because I haven't accepted that she's no longer with me. However if things ends this way, she have my blessings. If there is one thing I'd like her never to forget is: I love her.

His loving friend
Diyo Sokhela
+27749114054

Opposite Sex Friends

I've written many poems about friends of opposite sex. Most of which I've never recited. At the back of my mind I always knew, like my poem entitled 'Maybe' says; friends were meant to love one another.

Yes it's true; many of my poems about such friendships were inspired by friendships I've been in. Like all sorts of friendships, some did work, others didn't. Though these friendships might have not worked, still the poems inspired by them endure. Here is the reason; Poets (or at least I) don't normally write about specific people, events, situations, or scenarios, they simply draw inspiration and write about whatever that inspiration leads them into. For this reason, the poems I wrote didn't normally talks about these friendships specifically, rather they enlightened the audience about the nature of friendships I've been through and situations I've encountered. As a result, when some of such friendships fail... poems endure.

There is one common danger of being friend with a person of opposite sex. Confusion. Most of such friendships begin with a clear purpose, friendship. For some folks, like myself, who are naturally sweet and love making their friends to feel special and appreciated, there is a danger that the nature of friendship you're in might be mistaken for something mO0ore than just friendship. This suspicion isn't always raised by outsiders, even  the friend you're in the relationship with, might.

Sure there is nothing wrong with couples who start off as friends. In fact, relationships that start off as friendships and grow into something deeper are most likely to work, if well nurtured, compared to those where a couple was either familiar with one another or they seldom met in the street and suddenly started going out. Here is the point; not all friendships of opposite sex should be anticipated to grow into a romantic relationship or even marriage. The mentality of expecting a friendship to grow into something deeper usually steal from the two, as a result, you fail to enjoy the benefits of being purely friends. Here I'm not referring to the benefits of the friends categorised as 'friends with benefits'. I'm talkin about the benefit of having someone to talk to, share your raw thoughts with, without being under pressure to impress. Someone who'll accept you as you are and be purely a friend who isn't obligated to please you or put a smile on your face.

I've been with a couple of female friends. Almost all of these friendships were a great experience and they taught me lots about girls. Like the fact that girls are not necessarily materialistic, but still they are willing to accept it when guys wish to spend on them. Sure they like guys, but it's not always that they intend to develop affairs with those they like. They are not always looking for hunks, charmers, money-spenders, celebs and all that, normally they want to be with someone who can put a smile on their face without trying too hard. Deep within their hearts they know, they'll rather be with someone with lots of brains rather than a mindless millionaire.

A word to the guys: Girls are not always interested to you as boyfriends, at times you should be willing to settle for just friendship. Here is one more fact (or should I say my opinion?) about friendships; you don't have to plan them, friendships are most likely to work if they were not ignited like fire, rather they work much better if they react like chemicals that accidentally got into contact. LOL... It's called chemistry.

Damn... School Is Cool

Some will agree, both bookworms and party animals and everything in between. Others won't agree, and yes it does matter, though it doesn't affect how I feel about school. School has always been part of me, and it will continue to be (or at least I think so). Trues there is more to life than just schooling. That become even clearer when you consider that there is parenting ahead. Another challenging world I am anticipating to live in. However since the wedding bells haven't rang yet, we better focus on school.

I was out of school for a year, after things didn't work out accordingly at University of KwaZulu Natal, Westville Campus. The idea of being home for a year didn't sounds right, but I thought a gap year was ideal, so I can make up my mind on what exactly I wanted to do with my life, have a full picture on what exactly would I like to invest my precious time into. Thanks to Kushobani Org., Durban Poetry & Art industry, and entertainment as a whole. It's a year later now, honestly I don't feel like I flushes a year away, actually i didn't. Instead I've invested a lot into my future with regards into finding the direction.

I learned a lot during my gap year. Tasting a complete new life since I started school at the age of six. Interacting with talented and much creative youth, not-yet employed undergraduate students, art "experts" and a lot of people who added value into my little life granted to me by the highest God.

It's 2012 now and I'm back to my roots... back to my books (laughing). Schooling is sooo cool. Especially now that I'm doing a course I personally "think" I like. On my first three months of schooling, having made a lots of cool friends around Durban University of Technology, ML Sultan Campus, with wide variety of backgrounds, adapted to a new environment of studying, but most of all; achieved good looking marks on almost all my modules(I will be boasting to reveal the exact marks*).  To all the students who had enough courage to pick up their bruised egos and pursue a 2nd qualification after a first attempt, I say big up.

Like I said earlier on... Skwl iz Kwl...