WHAT WENT RIGHT?

For one reason or the other, daily we witness the end of relationships. Though it might sound like a tragedy,  it won't take long before you realise It's part of the thousand miles journey to happily-ever-after. Usually it's girls who mourn of being heartbroken. And yes, every gentlemen would love to come to rescue, sadly it's easier said than done. One way to reduce the effects of a heartbreak is to change how we view them. It doesn't always have to be a bitter end.

PART OF THE PROCESS

Having shared a part of you with someone is bound to lead to some form of attachment. Irrespective of whether is was a smooth or a rough sailing. So when you finally have to hit the road, sadness and tears is likely to be the part of the process. Even so, we still owe it to ourselves and our future partners to workout the break-up thoroughly and walk out of a relationship positively and without quarrel. Walking out of a relationship with a brokenheart is totally fine, but anger and in forgiveness are burdens you can do without. Even if you choose to carry those baggages with you, they are sure to cause you more harm than good on your next stop.

Walking out of a relationship calls for doing something you might have less likely given a thought and there is a chain of good reasons you should do it; celebrating the good you shared. You have tones of good things to celebrate and you certainly know it. Most couples get caught up on the blaming game and they end up robbing each other of the necessary feedback at the end of a relationship, 'What went right?'

FOCUS ON WHAT WENT RIGHT!

Knowing things you did right at the end of a relationship is the gold mine for the success with your next partner. It will help you decide what to settle for in your next relationship. It is also a pointer for pitfalls you should avoid. Your previous relationship helps you find a better suitable partner. But this can only be achieved if you were smart enough to learn from your past relationship(s).

Irrespective of why relationship could fail. There is something of great importance one could do at the end of a relationship, which could aid in leading them to a better relationship than the previous. That is discerning things you liked about your previous relationship from those you didn't. While it is necessary to note things that didn't walk for you in your past relationship, it is much important to focus more on those you liked, it is such qualities that will navigate you to your next partner.

TELLING LIKES FROM DISLIKES

When it comes to relationships, we all have preferences. We can tell what we like from what we hate. What we can handle from what we can't take. What we can tolerate from what we can't stand. As you move from one relationship to the next. The picture of your ideal partner keeps getting vivid. And the clearer the picture, the closer you get into bumping into your perfect match. Your soul mate.

HOWEVER, there is a trick. If you keep putting the blame entirely on your partner, and tell yourself your previous relationship was absolute crab. You lessen the possibilities of being able to recognise the qualities you look for in a companion. It is never a good idea to only remember bad things about your previous partner and this happens when we choose to end a relationship on a negative note.

TAKE THE PORTION OF THE BLAME

Ending a relationship with a positive note calls for recognising that it didn't work out and refrain from putting the blame entirely on one part. Though at times it might appear as if only one part is guilty of causing a relationship to fail, everyone does contribute to the failure, even if you can't really determine how.

So, instead of being mad to one another, be grateful you met, shared something special, groomed each other mentally, physically and emotionally and had a chance to be with one another. Relationships are beautiful, meaningful and purposeful. We do not always have to push them to eternity. There is a reason why the lights are always brighter across the river.

AND FINALLY...

If the relationship hits the rocky shore. Don't be mad. Learn a lesson, remind yourself of what you liked about your partner, get a more vivid picture of what you'd be looking forward to on your next partner. Just by doing that, the chances of meeting a compatible companion increases magnificently. The journey to meeting your soulmate consists of trials and errors, embrace them.