"SIDECHICK STOLE MY MAN"

He's been cheating on you for a while now, and you managed to find out a few times. Certainly you did confront him. It's okay. He apologised and you forgave him. That's absolutely okay. I understand as much your circle of girlfriends do. He's a guy and he make mistakes. And all of a sudden:

Now he's cheating on his sidechick with you. Urmmmmmn... Not so easy to digest is it? Thinking of it really, it happens rather often than less. Guys fall deep for the "other girl" who initially posed as a sidechick. She knows so much less about you but you know everything about her. Because you've been on her case and you talked too much to your boyfriend about her than you do about yourself.

Your boyfriend loves it when you start talking to him (or should I say nagging?) about his sidechick. And the more you do it, the deeper he falls for her. Busted will keep the conversation flowing just to hear the sound of her name slipping out of your very own lips. He's not interested on what you have to say about her, he just want to see how long you can go talking about his mistress. Because the further you go, the more you get used to the idea of her being in his life.

All along you talking about his sidechick he'll be asking himself, "What's so interesting about my sidechick that my girlfriend has to invest to much of her time into (1) investigating about her, (2) talking to her and (3) talking about her. Your acts make him feel like he made the right move pursuing the sidechick. The natural reaction after that is, he'll grow fonder towards the sidechick.

When men become more attracted to their 'other partner,' something really interesting (at least to me) happens. The sidechick comes first, and the so-called 'mainchick' becomes the second-best. Next thing is, he'll be spending more time with the other girl, protecting the other girl, providing for the other girl, and even talking more about the other girl than he does about you.

Well... What comes after this is of no interest to me: DRAMA!!! DRAMA!!! DRAMA!!!  the so-called mainchicks are so dramatic you'll swear the won their men in the national lottery. They act like they have no idea how they initially won his interest. Possibility is, we'll talk more on this behaviour on our next post. What one needs to note for now is, sidechick syndrome need to be handled with care and maturity, otherwise you are destined into swiping position with her... If you don't get kicked out of the triangle entirely.

Let's do this again soon. Keep visiting the blog and tell your folks to do the same. Remember sharing is caring (in terms of the blog, not partners!) and your comments are much welcome.